Trainer AB was able to come out over the weekend for my first lesson in way too long. We had others scheduled but it always poured down rain causing them to be moved. This has been a very wet and warm winter so far and while my arena remains a thorn in my side, the footing stays rideable even under 6″ of water which has been my salvage.
There was a lot to talk about since I hadn’t seen her since the last HT. I’ve been waffling a lot about what is best for us as a team – full training, more lessons, her riding him in shows, not showing at all, etc…and trying to really hone in on what I want from horses. It boils down to a few things:
- Have fun – if it isn’t enjoyable it isn’t worth doing. Scary sometimes, yes. Hard work, for sure. But at the end of it all, it must be fun.
- Improvement– nobody likes to feel stuck in a rut. Riding the same backwards ways and working on the same issues gets old, fast. I don’t have any bar I’m striving for here. No set height of jumps or level of competition. What I really want is to feel like I’m a better rider than I was 2 months ago, 6 months ago, 1 year ago.
- Flexibility -Spontaneous plans are the only way I function. I texted Trainer Saturday afternoon to set up the lesson for Sunday. I signed up for the last HT three days before it ran. I don’t have a ride calendar and I don’t pre plan my rides at home. It works for me to decide to enter a jumper show the night before or morning of. However, this means that I have to have a versatile horse who is in shape enough to tackle these last minute shenanigans readily and happily.
With all that in mind I have decided against full training for Eeyore. It isn’t needed for the above and goes against some of them directly. Trainer and I talked and I do want to keep showing. I like the challenge and I find it mostly fun. My confidence stems a lot from knowing my horse will do the thing. To that end, I am officially signing Trainer up to ride Eeyore at Windridge in February. Seeing him tackle all three phases with her will help me realize he can do this and that will make me a lot braver in the saddle.
For the lesson itself, it was pretty eye opening in all the ways I never expected it to be which is pretty par for the course for Trainer AB.
Right now the focus is on getting Eeyore to carry his own head and to understand that rein aids can mean a lot more than “slow down”. A lot of the flat work goes like this:
Eeyore pick up your head. I’m not carrying 1500lbs in my hands
Oh, you want me to slow down, I’m down with that
No, I want you to balance upfront and continue to move. I’m not talking to your feet.
Oh, so this is hard. I’ll just curl behind the bit and suck behind your leg. Then you can’t yell at me because I’m still technically moving and I’m not leaning.
Nope, you can’t do that either
It is hard work for him and me both as it requires my body and mind to do 1000 different things all at once and after just a few circuits around a 20 m circle I find myself out of breath. I will say though that it is getting easier and better for both of us and we are able to get some really good circles before it falls apart. The canter was the most balanced it has been to date as well.
My homework since the last lesson has been to sit up. After hearing trainer repeat “sit up, lean back” a million times in one hour, I declared that she would never have to tell me that again. Or at least not so much. As such, I’ve been working diligently on my upper body not only being more upright, but also being independent of my lower body so that when I give a cue I don’t tip forward. The hard work paid off as not only did I not have to be told to sit up one single time, I also got a lot of praise from Trainer for my stability and position. Wahooo for little wins!!
We finished with the flat portion of the ride and I thought we would move on to jumping, but Trainer had other plans. Remember the whole “needs to be fit and healthy to do the spontaneous activities I get us up to?” part of my life with horses? Yeah…well I’ve failed him miserably on that score and Trainer has a plan for me to fix it. My biggest pasture is pretty perfect for conditioning work. Not only is it plenty big, but it also slopes from right to left and from front to back. She wants me to work up to 10 minutes of canter work up and down that pasture after each ride.
To this end, she had me spend the second half of the lesson out in the field. As soon as we left the arena I tensed. Eeyore can be a giant asshole out in that pasture. It is the only time I have fallen off him – when he lawn darted me at a walk in that field. Trainer gave me a look like “grow a set and go do it” so I set off to trot up the hill. Eeyore immediately had an epic hissy fit. He bucked. He reared. He attempted to bolt away. He went sideways. He jigged. He did everything but be polite and follow directions.
Ah…so now she saw this side of him. She told me she was happy to see this because then she could be there to help me through it and better understood my anxiety about her conditioning plans for us. She set me on a small 15 ish m circle around the water trough to the left. Eeyore bucked and insisted that he would rather go in the barn where Gem and Pete were. She told me to a ) actually sit in the saddle instead of being tense and hovering and b) make him do it even if that meant he went around with his nose touching his butt the entire time. When we went towards the barn, he would speed up. When we went away, he would slow down and try to turn back towards it. I was to ignore all of this and make him do what I wanted. It took about 25 circles before he started to listen and then we repeated it to the right. it took less time and then we did a huge circuit of the entire pasture with her walking beside me. She got her steps in that day.
We manged to finish on a good note with instructions to begin with 5 minutes out in the field at the end of every ride. Once he behaved at the walk, introduce the trot then the canter then work up to 10 minutes. I’m not sure how long that will take, but I will do it.
You know, I’m not sure what Trainer thinks of Eeyore. I’m not sure she would ever tell me to sell him, but I also don’t think she would be all that sad if I did. Her biggest issue with him is his lack of obedience. His opinions that turn into action. While we were fighting over working in the field, she told me “He doesn’t get to have an opinion about this. He needs to learn that when you tell him to walk or trot in the field, he just does it. No questions asked. No temper tantrum thrown. If he wants to squeal under his breath, fine, but he does what you say”
It is something she has told me before and something I am working on instilling in him, but this too will take time. For now, I have my homework and will work hard at it until I get to set up time with her again.
15 thoughts on “2020 Baseline”
That picture of Pete is wonderful ❤ I would definitely get that framed and stick it in the barn.
I think the outside work will be really good for both of you. Not just for conditioning, but for furthering your partnership together by you insisting he do it, just like in the arena before-hand 🙂 You've got this! But now you know what that means, right? Time to strap on the helmet cam for some media!!! lol
I did wear the cambox but forgot to turn it on util we went to the field. I need to figure out how to get it downloaded and out of the app.
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Amazon has this USB SIM card reader if your computer doesn’t come with one! My laptop has a card reader, so I use that, but I got one of these when I had my old computer 🙂
You can do this! I agree with Mandy. This will be good for you. But, unlike last time, now you have better tools to tackle the field with. So, like your trainer said, start at the walk. Then the trot, etc. And, there is no time frame. You do what you can at your pace. And remember, progress isn’t linear. No one knows that more than me right now… (for us, the indoor we haul to is stressful ever 3 or so trips, why? I don’t know… lol. )
It was really nice to have her there to see how he is and help tell me what to do. As we went along she stayed back and watched and wanted to see me reacting quicker on my own. One of the things she really wants from me is to quit being reactive and become proactive to what he is going to do. I’m getting better bit by bit
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Apps have the reputation of being opinionated. Eeyore certainly fits that bill. But he’s got a lot of good qualities- including being smart. And he’s teaching you a ton.
He is fitting that bill to the fullest. Deep down he does want to be a good boy though. Sometimes he just thinks he should get his own way and he isn’t afraid to go for it. He is better now than 1.5 years ago when I brought him home so there is hope yet
That picture of Pete is so lovely! Definitely get it printed and framed, you will cherish it in the years to come. I do know what you mean about wanting to make sure riding hits all the key areas for you or else it isn’t worth it – its one of the reasons why I’m not interested in having a Professional ride my horse at a horse show. For me personally and where I am at in my life. I know my horse could win with someone famous and talented in the saddle, but I don’t mind not placing in the big class because I’m an amateur and my skills are limited, I want the experience of being able to participate, to say I was there, I rode the course etc. A lot of the pros down here don’t understand that. Having lists like the one you wrote out is important for keeping us focused on what we want and need from this expensive hobby!
That is one of the things I love about horses. How having horses and riding can look so different from person to person yet be fulfilling for each.
Beautiful picture of Pete! Eeyore reminds me of June in a lot of ways. So many opinions. I think you seem up for the challenge which is the perfect mindset. He’ll test you less and less the more often he doesn’t get his way
Yup, we will get there. I really want to be able to ride him out there. It is silly to trailer out to condition when I have the room to do it at home.
I love that picture of Pete! So handsome! Sounds like you have a good approach moving forward with Eeyore and your Trainer.
I had an old 20yo appy gelding a few years ago – he was super quiet and totally broke. But, the opinions that guy had! If we were out hacking and it even threatened to rain? He would squeal, toss his head and try and pull me home. The first time he did it, I was a bit freaked out. The second and subsequent times, I would just laugh and correct him. He would audibly sigh and just keep going. We would also hack past kids jumping on trampolines and tractors and sheep and he would just plod along, except it if it was garbage day – he would do these pretend spooks at the garbage cans until I told him to knock it off. He would then sigh and then go quietly. LOL Appy-tude…! I hope you and Eeyore can keep working through it – I think he is a solid dude and wants to do the right thing. He just can’t help protesting and testing you a bit first.
The more I read about Trainer AB, the more I love her. ❤
And that picture of Pete is beautiful.
Your trainer is worth her weight in gold. I’m so happy you found her and that you’re able to fit lessons in with her as it suits your schedule. Hopefully Eeyore will be a more willing partner by year’s end!
Ugh I’m so tired of being told to sit up too lol…. it’s so hard tho! And yea I remember the first time one of my trainers saw Charlie’s “tar pit” tendencies and it was really helpful bc I’m not certain she believed me up until she saw it herself…
Also overall I love your goals and am glad you’re not going the full training route. It’s not a bad option but def seems like not necessarily the best aligned for your purposes. Getting out there and having fun is so so key – can’t wait to see how the year unfolds for you!!